Hemingway told an incredibly rich story in just six words: "For sale: baby shoes, never worn." At SMITH magazine, thousands of people are following suit. Enough people, unknown and well known, have done this that two books have been released: Not Quite What I Was Planning and Six Word Memoirs on Love & Heartbreak.
I don't know how to condense my life into six simple words but I can add something to the love & heartbreak book: "You love me just because. Thanks." Read them and try it for yourself. It's really quite interesting to see what stands out as the most important thing about your life, love, relationship or pivotal moments.
You can even transform your favorite mini-memoir, or your own mini-memoir into one of the most personal T-Shirts you'll ever have. If you look at all the shirt and text sizes, shapes and styles, your shirt will be as unique as what it says. I'm wondering how good "without me, it is just aweso" will look on a gray background...
Here's the link. Watch the video and share it with someone you think might help make a difference. It breaks my heart that any of that had to happen.
Here's a link to info about the show and the scale explained in some detail. I found it really interesting to hear it explained in such detail. He even interviewed Tommy Lynn Sells about his killings. According to Sells, he feels no remorse and said that if he did, he would likely kill himself. If I killed upwards of 70 people, I might want to hang myself too.
The show also talked about how psychopaths differ from most people like how that can't empathize and sympathize and just feel in general. The researchers did some basic tests and found that in circumstances where normal people would feel anxious or tense, psychopaths would read normally. Another example was how a psychopath would describe being in love as being on par with having great sex which most of us know is definitely not the case.
Part of the reason they don't feel or think the way normal people do is that their brains ware wired to work differently than most other people's. The researchers were trying to figure out what and how in the brain is working differently and causing the lack of emotion.
One other thing that the show talked about was that most psychopaths were pushed over the edge in some way. For one killer, it was the combination of a troubled childhood and watching an adult man perform oral sex on a little boy. Another was having an overly sexual mother who dominated the household and having both his wives be unfaithful to him. Many psychopaths seem to be functional and mostly harmless until they hit a breaking point, whatever that may be.
Cross posted at random_things, randomthought & my journal
The thing is that many people from past generations find mixed relationships still somewhat odd. Many old money, important name families in New England still don't support mixing economically and many places don't support racially mixing. My SO is black and I'm white and the only issues we've had is with old school white folk. We went to a strawberry festival a few weeks ago at a Methodist church (we don't belong to it) in a semi-rural area of surburbia. We drew a few stares according to him but the gazers quickly relaxed after looking around and figuring out that this was normal. Oddly enough, nobody has had anything negative to say toward me.
According to one black girl I know, I'm supposed to be public enemy number one. The only people that have made it obvious were older black women giving us kudos. Maybe because once a more liberal gorup of people hit a certain age, you figure out that it's not so much race but finding a quality person.
Many people have interned or had summer jobs at places where there are veterans who have various opinions of us. I just found a very interesting article for USAToday say what is likely a popular opinion. I thought this should be shared.
cross posted at umd
They also recently found a bottle-nose dolphin that had a small extra set of fins near it's back flipper, echoing it's 4-legged ancestory. It this a preview of coming attractions? According to scientists, octopus and squids give off various signs of communication (color and body language) and seem very advanced for the species. In the Animal Planet miniseries, The Future Is Wild, scientists predicted that in 200 million years there may be 2 species of land squids: small tree dwellers and large, lumbering land squids. I also heard that octopi also have done other intelligent things like when one in a lab was fed something it did not enjoy, it waited until the scientist/lab tech came back into the room before it uncioled its limb and slammed the food to the tank floor. Another was believed to committ suicide out of boredom. It was given nothing to do or play with so it hauled itself out of the tank and on to the floor, killing itself being out of water.
Is this another slow moving step in evolution? Are squids and octopi the next species to evolve intellectually? Are they smarter then we give them credit for now? Is bipedalism as important in the ocean as it is on land? Prior to getting the largest known brain to body size ratio, humans developed the ability to walk up right. Advanced legs came before advanced brains for humans but it may not translate as well in the ocean. Could it also be the octopus immitating what it already knows and has seen humans do?
Love at first sight is actually more like lust at first sight. Humans are instantly attracted to someone on first sight but don't love them. The realization of love at first sight comes when looking back at that moment. It is likely someone has had that feeling before but since it didn't work out, it wasn't love at first sight as we know it. Relationships that result from that connection and work out well are love at first sight because they became love. Relationships like that include Dr. Drew's who loved his wife at first sight (not the other way around), exactly like me and my SO.
Another fact they mentioned is that women are actually less likely to have love at first sight than men! Men are much more visual so they are more likely to feel that sort of attraction or pull which explains a poll that was given. When it asked men vs. women if they believed in love at first sight, 10-15% more men said they did. Interesting, no?